4 Major Reasons parents don’t homeschool their children
Welcome to the second part of my series and I hope you learnt well from the previous one? In case you haven’t read it, go ahead and read the previous blog post now.
Moving on to the next reason…
Part B: I didn’t study Education, I’m not a teacher and in fact I don’t like teaching.
Lemme tell you a secret discovery you don’t know about yourself.
First, read what Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi said in his CREATIVITY book
Each of us is born with two contradictory sets of instructions: a conservative tendency, made up of
instincts for self-preservation, self-aggrandizement, and saving energy, and an expansive tendency made up of instincts for exploring, for enjoying novelty and risk. We need both. But whereas the first tendency requires little encouragement, the second can wilt if it is not cultivated. If too few
opportunities for curiosity are available, if too many obstacles are placed in the way of risk and exploration, the motivation to engage in creative behaviour is easily extinguished. Sustaining high levels of curiosity is the starting point of creativity.
The above is in the words of Mihaly, now lemme simplify it for you using my story.
I studied Chemical Engineering and could never had thought of teaching as a job. Most parents follow the norm of putting a child in crèche even as early as 3 months after birth due to work demand to cater for the family. I gave birth in school and as an Engineering students, you’d have guessed the only option I had; put my baby in a Crèche of course.
After graduating, I found myself in an expensive location, not by choice, but by my husband job demand which comes with “free” accommodation.
The cost of feeding is killing, not to talk of children school fees.
I had to try teaching my only child then by myself which happened to be my purpose till today.
Before you doubt your own ability, read on as I share 5 practical tips you can use.
Self Adaptation to Teaching.
Every parent is a teacher by nature; you teach your child what to do when they meet others, how to cook, dress themselves, care for self and others, extra lessons etc. This is one of the reasons the environment blame you first when your children misbehave before blaming school, only the self-preservative part of us made us into our “inability” to “teach”. God knows we can teach and that’s why he gave us these children.
Most of those who gave us the principles of how to teach, what to teach and where to teach today were themselves thought by their parents and/ or relations.
If you don’t have educational background at all, then learn “how to learn with your children ” because no one can do it better.
It’s not your background that’s stopping you, it’s your mind that’s limiting you. You can do anything once you’re ready to learn.
This is not to say that every child and parent must go through homeschooling, far from that. I discussed how to decide if this is for you or not using practical SWOT ANALYSIS and parent ASSESSMENT in our welcoming letter to the platform… you can check out our LETTER OF INVITATION on the page.
Stop sabotaging your future and the future of your children by giving this excuse of not having teaching background.
About me, I was never a writer and in fact I hated writing, in just less than two years counting back from today, people think I’m a born writer or what do you think about my writing prowess?
This is one of the secrets when you know the principles guiding creativity.
So we just discussed ADAPTING TO TEACH which was how I started.
The second solution to this problem is LEARNING TO TEACH.
Thank God for internet that has given us to the ability to learn from renowned learning centers across the globe even with certification.
Someone mentioned to me once that she just finished a course on coursera.org after she read it on my Facebook timeline sometimes back. I’m grateful my post changed someone’s life for the better, a life at a time.
Now you know, location nor distance shouldn’t be your excuse not to learn. Explore the website and its like to take any necessary course you need in this journey of parenthood.
Parenting isn’t a choice, teaching your children is part of the role so tie your wrapper well and start.
The third method to solving this problem is hiring a teacher.
Good news is that you don’t actually need to do this alone. The same way you seek help for your children to be taught in a conventional school, the same way you hire extra tutors for their homework is the same way you can hire an ASSISTANT TEACHER with relevance in the area of your weaknesses. It doesn’t have to be in teaching A B C D or 1 2 3 4 alone, it can be instructor in extracurricular activities as well like swimming, martial art, entrepreneurship etc
So hire one and pay her for her good service.
The fourth method around this is CO-HOMESCHOOLING popularly called HOMESCHOOLING CO-OP.
This method is very popular in the Western part of the world. Different homeschooling parents around the same location merge together leveraging their individual strength. Even if you can teach them formally, the reality is that you can do something, just something, differently in a unique and impacting methodology and so you’ll take the aspect of your strength.
In fact, this methods has been adopted by the conventional schooling system that invites all parents to come and teach whatever they can with a particularly scheduled week for this purpose, just to ensure each parents partake actively in this children’s learning process.
This post can’t contain the detailed “how to” of co-homeschooling rather, just to let you know what’s possible.
The fifth method is using the 3rd party objects.
This includes using educational CDs, Internet, encyclopedia, personal computer, learning toys and loads of others.
It was difficult for me to teach my then 2 years old girl ( now 8 years old) so if I tell you she learnt how to read and count by herself, you know how now… Don’t you?
I engaged her in a 1hour daily study via CDs appropriate for this purpose. I then release her to the compound where she plays with nature including grass and sand. She used to do it alone first and then we would look at the sky together and name everything we see. We look at the bush together and do same. We did this a lot and her mental at chronological age 2 was 4. Ask my family, friends or anyone that knows my girl at her very early years.
Only her had like 100kg weight of learning books I personally studied with her.
Touch and feel books, pop up books, different fascinating books that keeps a child glued to her book.
Even my now 3 year old boy that doesn’t like learning learn happily with these books.
You can drop a comment if you need them too.
I believe that reading the above should help you a little in the issues around part B of this series.
To be continued God willing…
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