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4 Major Reasons Not to Homeschool your Children: Socialization

4 Major Reasons Not to Homeschool your Children: Socialization

4 Major Reasons Parents Don’t Homeschool their Children Series.
Before you think this is not for you, sit up and read first. You will then have a choice to either cast it aside or pass it on to those who need it.
I must tell you as a Nigerian, homeschooling is not a debate, this post is just to shed light to the reality of homeschooling in Nigeria.

Part A: GOD FORBID, HOW WILL MY CHILDREN SOCIALIZE?

What makes homeschool socialization such a hot topic?

Talking about homeschooling, With approximately 4 million children currently being homeschooled in the U.S., along with a 15- to 20-percent yearly growth rate, many professional educators and school boards are concerned that this exodus will keep funds from entering the public education system.

Many teachers also believe that successful home instruction by uncredentialed parents undermines their expertise and jeopardizes their jobs.

Questions about inadequate socialization are often brought up as a means to disqualify homeschooling as a viable alternative form of education, but are the arguments valid?

Details here http://www.cbn.com/cbnnews/us/2007/may/socialization-homeschooling-vs-schools

 

So now that you know the root of the controversy, I believe this should open your mind a little bit.

First, do you even know what socialization mean or you just take the meaning as your environment imposed it on you?

Yes, you’re talking the SOCIALIZATION because that’s what you hear often.

Check this out as written by The Editors of Encyclopædia Britannica
“socialization, the process whereby an individual learns to adjust to a group (or society) and behave in a manner approved by the group (or society). According to most social scientists, socialization essentially represents the whole process of learning throughout the life course and is a central influence on the behaviour, beliefs, and actions of adults as well as of children”

Lemme simply put it as… Adapting and conforming to a norm either group norm or community norm.

Now from the two definition above, how has socialization translate to COMPETING, PLAYING OR SITTING SIDE BY SIDE WITH OTHER CHILDREN?

I’m coming…

In today’s world, we call Facebook and its like SOCIA MEDIA, which is gotten from befriending, mixing and adapting socially with the aide of internet even thou might later lead to physical meeting… How come you accept this as social?

Now, to drive my point home, socialization is actually learning to adapt to different ages of people be it in a group or a larger community.

This mean that they socialize when with their family, they socialize when with neighbors, they socialize when in children gatherings like FUNFAIR & PARKS , they socialize when they visit zoo, when they attend parties etc.

Note that they’re not forced to play with their mates, they pick socialization naturally not dogmatically from your defined expectation.

And by the way, when has sitting side by side , learning the same thing at the same time, or jumping together on the bouncing castle interpret to socialization?

I was sent to school just as every other kids in my time and you know what? It only made me to hate school so much then. I was always bullied, I didn’t use to learn in group as I only assimilate when I’m alone. My mom did everything possible to help me such that I attended seven primary schools all together. My teacher always noticed that I was always distracted in class even though I usually come leading the entire class and so they invited me one day to the staffroom so that I could tell them my secret, my secret was that I studied alone and I teach my mates after studying.

I hated my mates because I perceived them as distraction to my kind of lifestyle even though I’m now categorized as an extrovert today… hehehe.

This is just to let you know that conventional school is not the place to learn socialization, it can be learnt anywhere.

My children goes to new gathering and locations quite often and you need to see how well they socialize with other people be it young or old.

No, they don’t jump on people, in fact sometimes they don’t greet at all just like many of us then and many of our children now, but people commend their ability outside.

If you’re one of those who always talk about children socialization, you should know that you can’t change nature, you should rather learn to understand and socialize with nature.

If you’re not one of those who enforce children to accept everyone just like the normal system rather than educating them on how to relate best with other, do share this post with them.
Tell your friends about Homeschooling Nigeria as a platform that helps with both mental and physical support.

Do you still have question regarding this? Comment and let’s learn from each other.

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2 Comments

  • habiba umm Khadijah

    July 29, 2017 at 7:54 am

    Assalamu alaykum my dear sister. I love your effort- more grease to your elbow. Personally I favour partial homeschooling because children are different and what works for one may not work for the other. Some children unlike you learn better with competition. I think it’s better to study each child rather than send them all to conventional schools or homeschool all of them. I have met some home schooled children who couldn’t relate properly with other adults. They were lovely kids but they didn’t know how to accord honour to teachers outside their parents. I enlightened them anyway and we became friends. I believe there are some things only the environment can teach you- like being able to tackle a bully or how to understand the way other people think. This usually builds up when learning alongside others. So long a letter…catch you later 😍

      Homeschooling Nigeria

      July 29, 2017 at 11:54 am

      Thank you sis. Wa’alaykumussalaam warahmatullaah. This is the problem, believing that it’s one kind of schooling or the other that cause low self esteem.

      Fully homeschooled children aren’t cut of from peers, they just don’t go to conventional school. Bully happens everywhere and some children suffer the effect of bully throughout their life even thou they go to conventional schools.

      A child being bullied is usually the effect of self esteem, being scared of being blamed or being given punishment to serve.

      The homeschooling concept isn’t just for cutting children out, it’s more of parenting, what you do when children are with you either fully or partially. That’s why it’s important both parents and children are accessed to know what best suite them which is one of the concept to be treated in the training.

      God bless your kind heart.

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